Comments on: The Problem with Pioneering http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/ The MSI Diaries Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:15:11 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Katherine http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/comment-page-1/#comment-377 Katherine Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:24:57 +0000 http://newarchivist.com/?p=482#comment-377 Hi Matt, Thanks for the support! It's getting better. I think a lot of my problem was that initially I didn't know anyone. It seems easier to make friends if you have one friend to go do things with. It's always nice to know that someone has got your back. You're lucky to have found your wife so that she was with you when you were starting out in Kansas. I know that getting involved is key to feeling like part of a community, but I almost think it would be helpful if I had fewer options. There are so many churches and community organizations here that it's hard to know exactly where to start. I guess the obvious is to start with the places I come across between work and home. :) Hi Matt,

Thanks for the support! It’s getting better. I think a lot of my problem was that initially I didn’t know anyone. It seems easier to make friends if you have one friend to go do things with. It’s always nice to know that someone has got your back. You’re lucky to have found your wife so that she was with you when you were starting out in Kansas. I know that getting involved is key to feeling like part of a community, but I almost think it would be helpful if I had fewer options. There are so many churches and community organizations here that it’s hard to know exactly where to start. I guess the obvious is to start with the places I come across between work and home. :)

]]> By: Matt http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Matt Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:59:42 +0000 http://newarchivist.com/?p=482#comment-244 I know how you feel, as I moved to Kansas for a job about 3 weeks after graduating from my MLIS program in Pittsburgh. In those three weeks, I was married, went on a honeymoon, moved halfway across the country, and began a new job! It was crazy, but my wife and I had each other for company initially. Then we both got involved in volunteer community activities and our church and made a lot of new friends that way. Getting involved with those types of organizations can really help! I know how you feel, as I moved to Kansas for a job about 3 weeks after graduating from my MLIS program in Pittsburgh. In those three weeks, I was married, went on a honeymoon, moved halfway across the country, and began a new job! It was crazy, but my wife and I had each other for company initially. Then we both got involved in volunteer community activities and our church and made a lot of new friends that way. Getting involved with those types of organizations can really help!

]]> By: Katherine http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Katherine Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:44:27 +0000 http://newarchivist.com/?p=482#comment-232 Thanks for the good wishes! I felt like it was important to talk about this because it seems like there's often a "happily ever after" feeling that surrounds job hunting. It's easy to tell yourself that everything will be good after you get the job and forget that there are all these other details and inconveniences to work out. If you're interested in the website where I found the brunch group, it's <a href="http://www.meetup.com/" rel="nofollow">meetup.com</a>. Check it out! Thanks for the good wishes! I felt like it was important to talk about this because it seems like there’s often a “happily ever after” feeling that surrounds job hunting. It’s easy to tell yourself that everything will be good after you get the job and forget that there are all these other details and inconveniences to work out. If you’re interested in the website where I found the brunch group, it’s meetup.com. Check it out!

]]> By: Amber http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/comment-page-1/#comment-231 Amber Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:13:49 +0000 http://newarchivist.com/?p=482#comment-231 Good luck getting more settled and finding your niche! I had the same problem when I moved to Chicago for graduate school and I grossly over-estimated it's potential for new friendships! Good luck getting more settled and finding your niche! I had the same problem when I moved to Chicago for graduate school and I grossly over-estimated it’s potential for new friendships!

]]> By: Angelique http://newarchivist.com/2009/11/08/the-problem-with-pioneering/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Angelique Sun, 08 Nov 2009 22:17:03 +0000 http://newarchivist.com/?p=482#comment-229 I promise you are not alone! Those of us who have moved to a new city where we don't know anyone (or only know like two people who have busy lives of their own...) completely understand what you're going through. I was so busy the first two months settling in to my apartment and my new job, that I didn't have the time or energy to feel lonely. Now that I am feeling more comfortable and have settled into a routine of sorts, I have started to realize that I don't know anyone except for the 3 older ladies that I work with and my two friends from undergrad who have crazy busy lives of their own. It wasn't until the last couple weeks that it hit me: I spend A LOT of time alone. During the week, it's not so bad because I'm usually tired after work and fighting with traffic, so coming home to an empty apartment is kind of nice. I can relax, watch TV, and just chill out. It's the weekends that get to you because you suddenly have so much free time (and NO HOMEWORK to worry about!) and no plans. Now I consider myself an independent person and I am totally fine with being alone (and not being lonely), but there comes a point where you're spending more time alone than with people...that's when it gets lonely. I thought joining a yoga class would help (and it's been really great!), but it's mostly older women in my class, so it didn't really help me with my goal of meeting people. Maybe I'll check out that meetup site you mentioned. :) Although, my next idea to meet people is to join a bowling league! I think I missed the sign-up dates for the season though, so I'll have to wait until spring. Anyway...I just wanted to reiterate that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! We're all going through similar situations. Just hang in there and I'm sure everything will work out soon! Miss you! I promise you are not alone! Those of us who have moved to a new city where we don’t know anyone (or only know like two people who have busy lives of their own…) completely understand what you’re going through. I was so busy the first two months settling in to my apartment and my new job, that I didn’t have the time or energy to feel lonely. Now that I am feeling more comfortable and have settled into a routine of sorts, I have started to realize that I don’t know anyone except for the 3 older ladies that I work with and my two friends from undergrad who have crazy busy lives of their own. It wasn’t until the last couple weeks that it hit me: I spend A LOT of time alone. During the week, it’s not so bad because I’m usually tired after work and fighting with traffic, so coming home to an empty apartment is kind of nice. I can relax, watch TV, and just chill out. It’s the weekends that get to you because you suddenly have so much free time (and NO HOMEWORK to worry about!) and no plans. Now I consider myself an independent person and I am totally fine with being alone (and not being lonely), but there comes a point where you’re spending more time alone than with people…that’s when it gets lonely. I thought joining a yoga class would help (and it’s been really great!), but it’s mostly older women in my class, so it didn’t really help me with my goal of meeting people. Maybe I’ll check out that meetup site you mentioned. :) Although, my next idea to meet people is to join a bowling league! I think I missed the sign-up dates for the season though, so I’ll have to wait until spring. Anyway…I just wanted to reiterate that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! We’re all going through similar situations. Just hang in there and I’m sure everything will work out soon! Miss you!

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